A book review by Monica Ingudam
Book Title:15 Things you should give up to be happy
Author: Luminita D saviuc
Publication: Perigee, 2016, 189 pages.
I had to read this book when the introduction has “… liberated, financially, independent, self-expressed and free to travel the world to enjoy beautiful locations…”. My exact thoughts were printed in this book. I picked up the small size book which I love with the thought “Who is the author who has exacted my thoughts into words?”. I learnt that the author is Luminita D Saviuc, founder of PurposeFairy.com
Here are three points I want to share with you today:
- “Don’t look for faults, look for the lessons in everything that happened to you. Look for the good in the bad, look for the beautiful in the ugly. Being positive and having a grateful attitude will help you cope with life’s challenges in a healthier and more empowering way.” Though this was not the first time I am introduced with this concept, I guess I was ready to receive this information, so I took some time to pick some scenarios in my life where I saw faults and tried to look for the good. It was hard. How could there be any good when it caused such pain? I looked harder to see the beautiful. It took time, days but slowly I could find the lessons learnt and the beauty in it. This could be a powerful exercise. Try it!
- “Accept the past the way it is, with both the good and the bad, because only by accepting what happened will you be able to leave it all behind and work on crafting a brand-new life for yourself.” Again not a new thing, right? We have heard many time about accepting the past and moving on but what caught me was the later part on crafting a brand-new you. If you want to change to a new you , you have to let go of the past. Again looks simple, maybe difficult to implement but when you get into the awareness of catching your thoughts in lamenting in the past, get yourself into activities creating the new you, and use the time to create the new you. Try and experience your own transformation with this exercise.
- “Blaming is a waste of time and energy. It does no good, not to you and not to those you are blaming. And the less time you spend blaming, criticizing and complaining the more time you will have left to heal yourself, your wounds and your life.” It’s all about getting control of your time. Do you want to fill your time with blaming others or you want to utilize it in filling with things that uplifts you. The awareness of catching self in the blame game is a good time to pull back, have some quiet time and get control of your time. It’s a continuous practice but a powerful one in transforming yourself.
There are many things Luminita addressed in this book in a simple yet wise way. I really enjoyed this book with her style of narration with her own personal journey. You can find this book at Amazon.
Born in Manipur (India), based in Maryland (USA) patent holder for identifying Caller ID, with Computer Science Engineering background, you will find Monica Ingudam crunching numbers and data as an Analyst. During the weekends you will find her hosting FindingTheVoices talk-show featuring authors, artists and people who inspire, empower, educate and entertain with the vision to connect and spread positivity. You will find her reading, writing and painting in her quiet time.